There is no way the could know that as a result of the time there, especially from October, 2023 to January, 2024 - that GIRL is so traumatized that she can barely be educated in a classroom anymore.
I was upset at the idea that our chance for success at another school was severely limited because of this. I realized that I can't send her back to FAST.
It occurred to me, I just put in the COSA application and what if GIRL is accepted back to VM and then what if VM pulls her record and they see the GNETS recommendation from RNE and then call they call FAST or RNE to get some clarification - especially considering when they released her they thought she was regular enough for regular first grade.
I honestly thought that if they knew about the private testing result and the therapist confirmation of everything I had been saying, and the damage that was caused - I thought at least if GIRL was accepted at VM, and VM DOES call RNE, their feedback might be more aligned with what really happened.
And if she didn't get into Vickery Mill for 3rd grade (by way of the COSA lottery), she's going back to RNE because there's no way that we're going through what we went through at FAST again. I have no intention of dragging her from school to school and begging people to give us a chance. The whole thing is despicable.
And I thought, if she has to go back to RNE, we will need a solid re-integration plan for GIRL and NOW will be a good time to start thinking about that instead of after when school starts and the "plan" is reactionary. She just got dragged across the classroom at FAST.
January 28, 2025
Please, read this email a few times.
I was present at the meetings and I was copied on all of the emails when you VOICED YOUR FEELINGS about GIRL's time here.
Why is she talking to me like this? I am not 5. I wasn't voicing my feelings.
I was advocating for my daughter who was being voted in to prison school and for both of my children, one of whom was completely terrorized and both of whom are completely traumatized.
I have noted all of your concerns.
Do you see what that says? I have noted all of your concerns. That is correct. She didn't do anything. She didn't call me to come in a chat with her and figure out what was going on or how/why I suddenly became so upset at some point during the IEP evaluation process. She didn't get involved AT ALL. She listened to my feelings. She noted my concerns. She doesn't give a rodent's derriere. You read it right there.
January 29, 2025
It's not only condescending but it's so self righteous. How can anyone have a conversation like this?
You said a bad word therefore, you were definitly talking about your daughter for the entire meeting, with a teacher who didn't even teach her. I know that for a fact.
Those two things can be independent of each other. I can say a bad word while talking about a lot of things.
But she knows for sure I was talking about GIRL and I CHOSE to do that for the majority of the time. Therefore, she must have other people there and we can't talk about girl.
Here's what happened - I went to school on the 24th to meet with Ms. Nichols.
SCHOOL WAS CLOSED. ALL OF THE KIDS WERE GONE. The halls were mostly empty.
I had been talking with Ms. Nichols about my son and his recent resistant behavior, which is directly related to what is going on with my daughter. So it's kind of hard to have any conversation about what's bothering my son and why he's acting out, without mentioning girl and what's happening at home currently that might be affecting him, AND what happened to us last year and the residual resistant patterns that still can be triggered as trauma responses.
We talked mostly about my son and his behavior in school and all of my emails surrounding these dates will show that. This is a subject that obviously upsets me. My conversation with Ms. Nichols was productive and massively effective. I haven't asked Ms. Nichols if I upset her but what I do know is that Ms. Nichols is not the one that told her. Another teacher was walking into the room as I was leaving and she heard the tail end of our conversation, and I might have said a bad word. Now, I know that Ms. Nichols didn't tell her that because there's no way that Ms. Nichols would have told her also that I spoke about girl for most of the time because that just isn't true. So what happened here is that the other teacher told Lydia, and Lydia added the part about how I spent most of the time talking about GIRL.
But, why would she do that? She found a way to get of having a one on one meeting with me and a way out of having to talk about my daughter at all, and blame it on me. I used a bad word. She would have been able to have that conversation, she might have be willing to before I said the bad word (as evidenced by how willingly she jumped in to try and figure out what was going on and maybe help the situation), but now she can't. She never had any intention to. She heard what I had to say. She was there. She made notes.
at 11PM, I forwarded the emails with the teacher in question.
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